Tuesday, October 8, 2013

VEGETARIAN FESTIVAL

J-Festival in Thung Song from Nikki Elizabeth on Vimeo.



For weeks, these large yellow flags with Chinese and Thai writing on them in red have been popping up all over town. My friend Vicki, who has been in Thailand for a while, figured that they were for the vegetarian festival - which she saw last year in Phuket. When the phrase "Vegetarian festival" first entered into my schema, I figured- okay, there's going to be a lot of food venders with vegetarian stalls and I'll get to eat a lot. No. Not the case. As it turns out

Many Thai people observe this vegetarian festival, even if they do not eat Thai vegetarian food throughout the rest of the year. During this Thai festival, Thai people practice (เจ, pronounced jay). The word jay is taken from Chinese Mahayana Buddhism, and it means eight precepts observance. One of the eight precepts is the avoidance of eating any animal meat during the vegetarian festival. When a Thai person practices jay, they also keep up a high moral standard of good deeds in their action, words, and thoughts. During the festival, Thai people practicing jay must keep their body clean, keep their eating utensils clean, and make sure they do not share utensils with people not observing the Thai vegetarian festival. They must wear white clothing as often as possible, avoid killing or harming animals, and be mindful of their actions and thoughts. During the Thailand vegetarian festival, devotees abstain from sex and alcohol. In Phuket and in the south of Thailand, the festival is unique due to the actions of the mah song. A mah song is a man (or very rarely, a woman) possessed by a god during the vegetarian festival. Mah songs parade through the streets of Phuket, walking across hot coals or exploding fireworks and bathing in hot oil. They pierce their mouths, cheeks, ears, and arms with fish hooks, knives, razor blades and bamboo poles. The deity residing within the mah song protects their body from pain and injury
(Many thanks to Chaing Mai Best for the information.) My (gorgeous) Thai friend Vallappa is participating in a meditation cleanse for the 10 days by going to the temple every morning (and evening if she has time) and abstaining from eating meat, having sex, getting her period, and drinking alcohol.

Vicki said that last year in Phuket she happened to stumble upon the main event. Apparently, it's a huge deal in Phuket. Certain people go into a trance and then parade around with umbrellas through their cheeks, sticks shoved through their noses, lips, and chins, and blood running down their bodies. Some might walk on hot coals. She said it's awesome, and gruesome. Naturally, I need to see this. So Vicki and I asked Vallapa where we could find it, and she couldn't tell us a date or a time, but said that they'll start in the center of town and then walk around to all of the shops, stopping to bless restaurants and shop owners as they go.

Vicki's in Ao Nang right now, but she called me up to let me know that they're about to start the parade there, so maybe it's the same for Thung Song? So off I go on my scooter, though I was actually headed toward the bank because I had errands to run too. Sure enough, I see the tell-tale yellow flags and a police car leading the front of the parade. I quickly pull off on the side of the road and prepare to get my camera out. As I'm struggling to quickly put a sweater on over my tank top, (when in doubt, cover up to be respectful) a Thai man standing on the side of the street where I parked my bike beckons me over. Now, I'm wondering if he's going to tell me not to take photos or something that a foreigner wouldn't necessarily know, so I go to him. He starts rambling off in Thai and gesturing towards the parade. I nod, smile and say "parade, yes yes I know" I have NO idea what he's on about. In the mean time, I see a Thai woman taking photos so I reckon that's okay. Before I can get away and get back to the parade, he's telling me his name and asking me where I come from. I'm polite, answer his questions and tell him I'm a teacher, but by the time I manage to get away (not before receiving a very awkward kiss on the cheek???) the parade has gone past. No matter, I'm back on my bike and off again.

I saw the general direction it's heading so I start zigging and zagging through the towns center, trying to catch up and figure out where I can park. I have no idea where I am, but I'm keeping sight of the main strip every time I go up a side street. Finally, I manage to come out on the main street ahead of the parade so I park my bike and get in prime position for photos/video.

The parade didn't disappoint from what Vicki told me. Sure, it was most likely on a much smaller scale than other large places (Thung Song aint that big) but it delivered exactly what I hoped for. It starts off with a police car, then a truck that's playing traditional Thai (chinese?) music. Next come a group of girls in colorful, chinese looking shirts carrying a banner. There's people with offerings, and some with donation boxes. (i assume- could be wrong) And sure enough, there go people with all kinds of stick like objects through their mouths. At first I was like - wait, is that going through their cheeks? Yup. Okay then, skewers through their cheeks. Wait, wait what? Is that an umbrella?! Yes, yes it is. Is that a FLAG? Yup - how do they do that? They're just sauntering on like like there's NOT an extremely uncomfortable pole through their face.

A little boy goes by carrying a bucket of water bottles, and the parade stops with a man who has a double ended flag through his face right in front of me. How did they even get that in there? I see another man dressed in white squirt some water into the mouth of a guy with a large skewer through his cheeks, and the parade carries on. Rounding out the back are a few shirtless men carrying black flags, also with things through their face. They're dancing around, shaking their heads and bodies as if they're in a trance. I look closer - One of them in blindfolded with a red cloth. The other two have something smeared down their chests. Wait, is that blood? Indeed it looks like it. I don't know if it's their own - having run down their chest from their impaled cheeks, or if it's a ritualistic smearing of animal blood or even red paint. I'm willing to say it's their own blood, but then I wondered where everyone else's blood was. Maybe these guys were doing it for the first time where others already had the holes there? It will forever be a mystery to me.

The parade continues with pickup trucks, in the back are monks, shrines, and Chinese-Buddhist statues adorned with offerings. Women dressed all in white, adorned with veils and gold bangles are walking past, they're doing the blessings. One woman sees me taking photos and comes up to me. At first I thought I'd be chastised. But then she closes her eyes and starts chanting in Thai, touching my head, my shoulders. She sprinkles me with water, and offers me a flower. I thought I heard her say "kru" a few times, meaning she was blessing me for being a teacher, but like usual, I have no idea what's being said. I'm receiving a blessing in a festival in Thailand. It doesn't matter what was said, it doesn't matter that I don't understand. The experience itself is awesome, in the literal sense. I try my best to act appropriately, bowing my head and putting my hands in prayer position to my forehead, but in all honesty, I didn't know what to do. It was a very spiritual moment though, and an experience I will never forget.

Friday, May 17, 2013

DEAR THAILAND

Dear Thailand,

What have you done to me?

I’ve only been here for 10 days, and already so much has changed.

I eat seaweed chips and salmon chips and I ENJOY them
I call them crisps now (as a reflex from spending so much time with friends from the UK/SA)
I ate fresh (cooked) fish with its head still on it. (It was looking at me)
AND it was delicious
I learned what a beach braai is (barbeque; South African speak)
I prefer that word to barbeque; like crisps that terms also comes naturally now.
I stopped wearing makeup
I stopped caring about if I smell (we all do)
I don’t complain about the heat (THAT much)
My skin is 14 different shades of red, pale and tan and it doesn’t even matter
I stopped getting 25 mosquito bites a day
I now call mosquitos mozzies (its so much cuter)
I eat weird fruits (durian, jackfruit, rambutan, dragonfruit and papaya)
Food stalls on the side of the road are my favorite thing
I’ve stopped questioning sanitation
I’ve used a squat toilet
I talk openly about poop
I pick up a new weird snack at the 7-Eleven every time I go
I’ve been to the 7-Eleven more times in the last ten days than I have in my entire 23 years
I can’t live my life without a Tesco, when 10 days ago I didn’t even know what that was. (Far superior to Wal-Mart in every way)
I only drink whiskey or beer, as far as alcohol goes.
I’ve recovered from hangovers in only ONE HOUR in the sun
I’ve never sweat so much in my life (and been so comfortable with it)
90+ degrees and a sea breeze is now considered SO refreshing
88 degrees in the nighttime is now considered cool
I can sleep with sand in my bed
I can sleep without air conditioning (which I’ve also taken to calling aircon)
I’ve learned that getting caught in the rain isn’t always a bad thing

But most importantly:

I’ve learned to start thinking positively
I’ve learned to relax
I’ve learned to take it one day at a time
I’ve learned that stress need not exist
I believe that everything happens for a reason and it will all work out in the end
I’ve learned to embrace uncertainty, laugh instead of crying, and seize adventure
I’ve learned that you can have a DMC (deep meaningful conversation) with someone you just met
I’ve learned that everyone has their own baggage/demons/struggles/insecurities
I’ve learned that you can meet your soul mates and become a family within 5 days of being together
I’ve met some beautiful people inside and out and became best friends in a matter of days
I’ve talked to these people about things that I haven’t told my friends I’ve known for years. I’ve laughed, cried, reassurred them, shared my fears and insecurities AND told them I love them all within a week
My TEFL group is amazing.

I’m going to miss them. I hope I see you in another life, brother.

These bonds have changed my life. This group of people is amazing and wonderful as a whole and each person individually.

Life is terrible, sad, heart wrenching, unfair and hard.

But this life is beautiful.

Thursday, May 16, 2013

HUA HIN TRAIN STATION

Hua Hin train station. Built in the 1920’s under the reign of King Rama VI, it’s one of Thailand’s oldest railway stations. Most of the photos are of the Royal Waiting Room, constructed in traditional Thai style architecture. 

ONLY IN THAILAND. . . [THOUGHTS ON THE SLEEPER TRAIN]

Only in Thailand. . . 
Does a 12 hr sleeper train south cost half as much as a bottle of vodka. 
($15)
 
Note to self: Thai Pringles taste the same as American Pringles. But only if you think Pringles taste about the same as a communion wafer #gross 
I’m almost done with Are You There Vodka it’s Me Chelsea, (who’s been my friend since this adventure started and I had no friends, now I had to leave said friends to move to my job), my train snacks taste like shit and I’m sweating my balls off if I had any. This must be what culture shock (or as I like to call it, PTSD) feels like. 
What if I fall out of my upper bunk? 
Okay, okay, happy thoughts. I spoke broken Thai/broken English with two Thai men while waiting for the train. There was the primary converser and his brother (I think?). The conversation went something like this: 
Thai man: where you going?
Me: Nakohn Si Thammarat 
Thai man: ohhhh Nakohn Si Thammarat 
. . . 
[long pause]
Me: same train?
Thai man: *smiles and nods* (this happens often here. It does NOT mean they agree, understand, or are saying yes.)
Me: you too? 
. . .
Me: you go to Nakohn also?
. . .
Thai man: No, No, Hat Yai 
Me: ohh, Hat Yai! *smiles and nods* 
. . .
[long pause
. . .
Thai man: you go alone? 
Me: no, no no, with a group (I am going on the train alone, but not about to tell anyone that) 
Thai man: ohhhh
. . .
[long pause
. . .
Thai man: what place(?) you going?
Me: Nakohn Si Thammarat. 
[Thai man looks confused]
Me: Toom song? (Not sure that’s even how you say it?)
Thai man tries again. Still sounds the same. I look confused. He gestures at his friend. They speak Thai 
Thai man 2: What (place) you go? 
… *still confused*
Thai man: Why you go?
Thai man 2: What you do ? 
Me: Oh! I’m teaching English 
[They exchange glances. I try again]
Me: Teach English. At school 
Them: ohhh! 
[big smiles]
Thai man: you English teacher!
Me: [nods and smiles] Yes! 
. . .
[long pause
. . .
Me: you go to Hat Yai too? (To the second man
Thai man 2: No no 
. . .
[long pause
. . .
Thai man 2: I here. Hua Hin. You here? 
Me: yes, I was in Hua Hin. 
Thai man: He … *gestures* my brother (?
[He says something in Thai. I repeat it.]
Thai man: yes yes good 
[I can only assume he said the Thai word for brother]
Thai man 2: you come back? 
Me: Maybe?  
. . .
[Thai people like to know you like their country and you’re enjoying yourself. I decide to lie]
. . .
Me: Yes! I visit Hua Hin 
Thai man: my brother, his number
[Thai man 2 takes out his phone]
The first guy’s train is called. We shake hands and smile and say goodbye. I wai at them as he wais back.  Lots of nodding and smiling and saying goodbye.
I turn away. 10 minutes later the second guy hands me his phone. It has his number in it. I write it in my phone.
Me: what is your name? 
Thai man 2: Bahpawn
Me: Bahpawn
Bapawn: [nods and smiles really big]
Me: [gestures at myself] Nikki
Bahpawn: Nikki! 
[We shake hands and wai]
Bahpawn: you . . . [gestures to phone]
Me: you want my number? 
[Bahpawn nods and smiles]
So I call him, because I can’t remember my Thai number.
Bahpawn then proceeds to tell me that when I come back he will show me around Hua Hin. 
At least I think that’s what he said? Idk I may have signed up to be this guys’ wife. 
But seriously, this was an old Asian man. He was harmless and smiled a lot. And very nice. Thais are extremely hospitable. They will take you in if you asked for it. I think he was being friendly.
In any case, I probably won’t ever return to Hua Hin as lovely (and simultaneously dirty, smelly, and hot as all Thai cities are) as it was. I’ve got bigger fish to fry.

Sunday, May 12, 2013

ADVENTURES IN TRAVELING - BANGKOK EDITION

The last REAL blog post I wrote was all about the first leg of my journey to Thailand, in which things went wrong but not too severely. Well, it got worse. But I’m incredibly proud of the way I handled the whole mess.

So, my 13 hour plane ride was delightful, due to my mother’s sleeping mask I brought along at the last second. (That sleeping mask has since become one of my most valued possessions)
[Edit: I've since misplaced the sleeping mask. I left it on a train to Bangkok two weeks ago. *cries*]

I had a 45 minute layover in Taiwan at 11:00 pm, which was just enough time to get shuffled from one terminal to the next and appreciate how aesthetically pleasing the Taiwan airport was.

3.5 hours later, I arrived in Bangkok, at 1 in the morning. I had no idea what to do or where to go, but eventually made it to customs, (note to self, they call it immigration, hence my confusion) where they stamped my passport and let me in. Got my luggage, took out some money, made my way to “exit 3” where my driver should be waiting. He’s not. Never fear, I went through customs pretty quickly, maybe he’s just running late. Considering the fact that I’m now alone in a foreign country, I’m relatively calm, not even that worried about it. I took precautions to write down the address of my hotel, so I figured it would just work itself out. Mai pen rai and all of that Thai 'no worries' business.
[Edit: Mai pen rai means never mind, don't worry, etc. Can also be used as "you're welcome" and "forget about it"]

A blonde girl approaches me, concerned for my welfare. As a fellow white chick, she feels the need to make sure I’m okay. I explain my situation. She told me the taxis were trying to rip her off, and would we want to share a taxi if my driver doesn’t come? Sure, I agree. I suggest we wait a little longer. We walk back to where there’s other drivers, and a friendly woman who speaks SOME English asks me which company I’m looking for. I tell her, she says no they’re not on the list, and sees that I’m clutching a piece of paper with a Thai number on it. Before I even have a chance to protest, she’s gotten her phone out and is dialing Michael, the president of Xplore Asia AT 2:30 AM. Jesus. His wife answers, I apologize profusely, and she eventually calls us back and tells us that they’re so sorry, they don’t have anyone to pick me up.

At this point, I know exactly what’s happened. Of course. In the 72 hours leading up to me hopping on a plane for the other side of the world, I was the most stressed out I’ve ever been because I had trouble getting the proper visa at the DC embassy, and they had my passport until the last minute. To the point where I had emailed Michael and told him I might have to change my flight and be a day late. When I found out that I wouldn’t have to, he got another email that it would be fine, to which he responded to. But I guess that update did not get passed on to the employees that arrange hotels and transportation, because there was no one there for me.

Fine, whatever, I’ll take a taxi. Michael is kind enough to explain exactly where I should go and what I should say to ensure I don’t get ripped off (key phrase: meter, meter, meter. Yes, meter) so we set off. This is the only point in the whole journey that I’m terrified, as we get closer to Bangkok I realize I have no idea if the cab driver knows where he’s going, even though he says he does. It turns out, he doesn’t. We pull over, and between the three of us we gather that he wants to call the hotel. I have the number handy, because I came prepared. So we set off again. It’s nearly four am before we pull up at my hotel. It looks really nice! The bellhop takes my things, I pay the driver, and right before he’s about to leave the bellhop says no no, not the right hotel. I’m supposed to be at the H Residence Inn, and this is the Heritage (also called the H). Mai pen rai, the correct one is right down the street. Perfect. So I arrive, get my bags out, and check in.

There’s no room booked for me.

You no arrive until tomorrow night the man tells me.

Ah, travel plans that were cancelled and never corrected. Like the driver. I’m so exhausted at this point, and I think all my stress was used up on the visa debacle that I just smile and tell him it’s a mistake, and I’m here now, I’d like a room please.

THERE ARE NO ROOMS AVAILABLE.

Luckily, it’s only 4pm on my body clock with the time change, so while I’m exhausted I’m still thinking clearly and remember that with Thai people you can’t use confrontation or let them know you’re upset. You can only smile and be polite. I do just that, and explain that I’ve been traveling for 30 hours and I would just like a place to sleep please.

Luckily, he tells me there is an open room, but it is not clean. Fine, great, I’ll take it. Just give me a clean top sheet and I don’t care, I literally just want to lay down.

And that is how I kept my cool and made it to Bangkok after 30+ hours of traveling and a full day lost due to jet lag.

Surviving that was amazing, because I’m now confident I can handle anything Thailand throws at me. If I can keep it together and not have a melt down over all of that, then I can probably manage to make it through this whole adventure without having one at all.
(so far so good, 6 weeks in and I haven’t cried yet. Success!)

After that, I met people in my group and we became amazingly close after only a week and a half and I had the time of my life with them. I can’t wait to reunite with them in a few weeks!